你就是你的行为。
You are how you act

原始链接: https://boz.com/articles/you-are-how-you-act

美国人对“自我”的理解,是卢梭和富兰克林哲学之间持续的内在辩论。卢梭认为人天生善良,但会被世俗所腐蚀,更看重意图(“我本意是好的”)。而富兰克林则认为美德是一种后天习得的习惯,更关注行为和结果(“让我看看你做了什么”)。 美国社会同时运用两者——通过卢梭寻求宽恕,通过富兰克林要求责任。虽然两者都很有吸引力,但作者认为富兰克林的模式更实用、更有力量。专注于重复的行为,而非内在感受,*塑造*了性格。 富兰克林强调“行动”促进了进步和自主性;我们无法总是控制自己的感受,但*可以*控制自己的行为。这种“先做起来,再成为”的方法,虽然有时被轻视,但强调了持续的行为塑造了我们,最终带来真正的改变和成就。

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原文

The modern American self is best defined by two Enlightenment thinkers who never met but have been arguing in our heads ever since.

Jean-Jacques Rousseau believed in the primacy of the inner self: a core of goodness constantly betrayed by circumstance. In his view, the world corrupts us. We begin pure and only fail because society, obligation, or expectation pulls us away from who we truly are.

Benjamin Franklin saw it differently. For him there was no such thing as a good person or a bad person, only people who do good things and people who do bad things. Virtue was a habit, not an essence.

Modern America carries both of these ideas, switching between them whenever convenient. We invoke Rousseau when we need forgiveness: I meant well. We invoke Franklin when we need accountability: Show me what you’ve done. It’s an almost entirely incompatible pair of philosophies that coexist perfectly in practice because they’re both so flattering — one to our intentions, the other to our ambition.

But only one of them scales.

“Fake it until you make it” is often dismissed as shallow, but it’s closer to Franklin’s truth. Faking it long enough is making it. The repetition of behavior, not the sincerity of belief, is what shapes character. You become the kind of person who does the things you repeatedly do.

Rousseau invites endless introspection. Franklin invites progress. The first is about how you feel; the second is about what you build.

I find the Franklin model far more useful. Not because it’s truer in some cosmic sense, but because it gives you agency. You can’t always change how you feel, but you can always decide what to do next.

“It doesn’t take great men to do things, but it is doing things that make men great.” — Arnold Glasow

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